Thursday, 15 Nov 2018

How To Build Loving Relationships. Online Dating Tips

How To Build Loving Relationships

Don’t Forget to Text before You Call. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

As soon as possible after you get her number, you need to send her a text message so that she can store your number in her phone. This text message is a great way to break the ice and is an important step you need to take before you call her to set up the first date. If you do not send a text message and instead go directly for the first phone call, the odds are high that she will not have a clue who you are when you first speak. She might not even pick up the phone because she doesn’t recognize your number. If you send her a text like the one below, she can store your telephone number in her phone and will recognize who you are when you make that first phone call. Text Message: “Hey [Insert Woman’s Name], this is [Insert Your Name] from [Name of Dating Website]. I’ll give u a call this week so that we can set up a time 2 meet each other in person. Hope u are well… :-)” OK, so you have sent her the text. Now, you are ready to make the first phone call.  If you want to build loving relationships, follow this tip.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

Secrets to a Successful First Phone Call. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

The goal of the first phone call is to set up a casual, INEXPENSIVE date for the two of you to meet (think coffee shop, pub, ice cream parlor, etc. … and not an expensive restaurant or bar). Keep the conversation short and sweet. Once you have secured the date, hang up. You can leave the chitchat for when you are face-to-face.  You are going to be a bit nervous, but so is the woman on the other end. Just relax and let the conversation flow naturally. Here is an example:
You: “Hey this is [Insert Your Name]. How are you?”
Her: “Good thanks. How are you?”
You: “Doing great. I think you have a pretty cool profile, and I’d like to meet you in person. What do you say we grab a cup of coffee or two this Thursday evening?”
Her: “Sounds good. Where do you want to meet?”
You: “Let’s meet at seven o’clock at the coffee shop on the corner of Main Street and Cherry Avenue.”
Her: “Great!”
You: “Cool, I will see you then. Have a wonderful evening. Bye-bye.”
Her: “You too! See you soon.”
That’s it. BUT, you need to look out for the number 1 warning sign during your first phone call to avoid getting flaked on.  If you want to build loving relationships, never forget about this tip.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

The #1 Warning Sign You Might Get Stood Up. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

On your first phone call, you must look out for the number 1 warning sign you might get stood up: making a date to make a date. In other words, if you call and her response after you ask for the date is something like, “Umm, I don’t know if I can make it, but I’ll let you know on Wednesday if I can,” you should either suggest another day that may be more convenient for the two of you or tell her that you will contact her at a later time to reschedule. In 99 percent of the cases, when a woman tells you “I’ll let you know,” this is a soft way to say “no.” She most likely doesn’t want to reject you right then and there on the phone in order to avoid hurting your feelings.  If you go ahead with her plan of making a date to make a date, she will likely wait until the day before or day of the date to tell you that she can’t make it. In many cases, the excuse will be silly and downright insulting:
“I have to take my grandmother to water aerobics lessons.”
“I have to take my dog to the veterinarian.”
“I completely forgot … my second cousin once-removed is having his birthday party tonight.”
If you have done everything right as I’ve described in the previous steps and you still get the dreaded last-minute-cancellation text message, just keep calm and tell her, “Have fun.” You have now put the ball in HER court. At this stage, if you two are to meet, SHE will have to invite YOU.
Never make someone a priority who makes you an option.  If you want to build loving relationships, always follow this useful tip.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

How to Ace the First Date. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

The first date is where things get really interesting. Your first date is like a first job interview. Make sure to do all the obvious stuff like looking your best and showing up on time so that you can make a dynamite first impression. The key to acing the first date is to focus on having fun and keeping the conversation light while you get to know each other. Ask her open-ended questions about likes, dislikes, interests, hobbies, dreams, embarrassing past experiences, etc. You should avoid straying into heavy topics like politics, religion, or sex (unless she brings it up first). Be relaxed and be yourself. (Yes, that is cliché advice, but it is cliché for a reason—it’s true!) Use the first date as a chance to see if you have any chemistry. If you feel that you have chemistry together and things are going well, you can extend the date to a short walk in the park or transition to another venue. Just make sure that the date does not last too long. As they say in Hollywood, “Always leave ‘em wanting more.” You want to always end the first date on a high note.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

The Top Five Signs She Likes You. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

The top five signs to look out for on the first date in order to determine if she likes you or not are as follows:
She can’t stop smiling.
She can’t stop looking at you.
She tosses her hair and gives you positive, open body language.
She laughs at all your attempts to be funny.
She asks you if you two will see each other again.
There are many other subtle signals as well, but these are the top five. Don’t be worried if you didn’t see any of these five signals during your date. Some women take a while to warm up.  If you want to build loving relationships, these tips will help you in this.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

What to Say and Do on the Second Date and Beyond. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

If all went well on the first date, you should update your dating spreadsheet and then ask for a second date. Wait at least a few days so that you don’t come across as trying to smother her in the early stages. Do call her, though, and set up a second date if you had a great time on the first date. If she likes you, she will be waiting for your call.
If you find that she doesn’t pick up when you call to arrange the second date, leave a brief message and ask her to call you back. If a few days go by and she hasn’t called you back, most likely she is just not that interested. You can try again, but I normally don’t. You want to date a woman who wants to date you. Don’t waste your money, energy, and time chasing an unrequited romantic interest. Always be willing to walk away at any point during the dating process. Your resources are precious and should be spent on only the most favorable prospects. Being willing to walk away from an unfavorable situation puts power in your hands, whether you are being played in the early stages of dating or you are in a 20-year marriage. This willingness to walk away will give you the confidence to enter into any romantic situation without fear. If you want to build loving relationships, never forget that.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

Why Wait until Three Months Have Passed to Make Your Relationship Official. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

In my experience, you can get the best early read on a woman within three months of meeting her. Why three months? Well, this is usually enough time to give the early-stage infatuation a chance to wear off and enable you to see her true colors begin to shine through. Also, any clear red flags (deal-breakers) in her character should begin to appear by now. However, the flaws are often very subtle at this point in time, so you need to be alert in order to avoid being blinded by your new love. Of course, the process of getting to know each other will not stop at three months, but three months is generally a good rule of thumb for when people begin to let their guard down a bit. At this stage, you start to think about making the relationship official.  If you want to build loving relationships, do not forget about this important tip.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

 When to Stop Dating Other People. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

When you get to a certain point in the relationship and things feel good (this should be after three months), take the risk and agree to date each other exclusively. Don’t be weak and try to “protect yourself” by continuing to find new women to date. A lot of pickup artists and dating gurus suggest “spinning plates” and “continuing to keep dating other people” in order to protect your heart. Don’t do this. Grow a pair, dive right in, and don’t look back. If the relationship isn’t meant to be, end it and go back to the beginning of the process I outlined in this book. In the back of your mind, you should always be confident that you can meet other women whenever you want. Don’t just keep dating for dating’s sake. Don’t keep dating to have an insurance policy or a Plan B. Your Plan A is all that matters. Your Plan A is this beautiful, intelligent woman whom you love and who loves you back. Failing to cut off your options after you have decided to commit to your girlfriend is trouble, and you could lose a really fantastic woman.  If you want to build loving relationships, remember about these words.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

Don’t Just Sit There, Do Something. 

How To Build Loving Relationships

You only live once. It is cliché, but you deserve an awesome woman, and you can’t do it by sitting indoors and repeating your same weekly routine. You have to put yourself out there, and the best place to get started is to sign up for an online dating site where you have a large pool of singles to choose from. Continue on to Section 3 to read my reviews on the best online dating sites in 60+ countries around the world.

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How To Build Loving Relationships

“Online Dating Success. How to Find Love Anywhere in the World”

Addison Sears-Collins

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