Thursday, 15 Nov 2018

Steps to Take before Signing Up for Any Online Dating Site

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1) Choose to be Happy. Online Dating Site

The first and most important step you must take as you prepare to date online is to choose to be happy. It is a fact of life that happiness is infectious. People are naturally attracted to people who are fun, positive, and exude contentment and satisfaction with their lives. Nobody wants to be around someone who is depressed and miserable all the time. Sure, life is not perfect and is full of ups and downs. Being single sucks and can be painfully lonely at times. However, you must resolve to see the glass half full and realize, in the words of the famous author Napoleon Hill, that “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”

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You can be ambitious, physically attractive, intelligent, and confident, but if you choose to let your circumstances dictate your happiness, you will not attract the kind of partner you seek and deserve. Throw negativity out the window. Put your worries, fears, and frustrations aside. You will not remain single forever. Your partner is waiting for you out there. And even when you do attain a relationship or get married, things will not be perfect and there will be a whole new set of problems you will have to deal with. Such is life. Therefore, in the meantime, enjoy the moment, be thankful, and choose to be happy for the rest of your life.

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2) Develop a Passion in Something. Online Dating Site

My passion is international travel and providing useful information to help improve the lives of others. I am also passionate about achieving my vision of a Border-Free World and working to destroy the barriers that limit the free movement of human beings from one country to another. What is your passion in life? After you die, what do you want written on your tombstone? What legacy do you want to leave behind? What can you do right now to make sure that you don’t have any regrets when you reach the last stage of your life?

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Whether it is travel, music, computers, skiing, scuba diving, video games, etc. (well, maybe not video games, but you get the point), discover your passion because that is what makes you an interesting and unique person. A life devoid of passion is like a meal devoid of spices and seasonings … it is bland and boring. People are naturally attracted to people who lead interesting lives. If you haven’t already done so, find what you are enthusiastic about and pursue it with vigor.

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3) Set Goals and Take Calculated Risks. Online Dating Site

Don’t get complacent with your life. Always have a set of stretch goals and seek out new life challenges. Pushing yourself beyond mediocrity and complacency is what makes life sweet and is incredibly attractive to others. Goals could be losing 20 pounds by December 31, completing a book, or launching a new product for your business.

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4) Have Faith that in Due Time You Will Meet Your Perfect Match. Online Dating Site

It is cliché, but I’m of the camp that there truly is someone for everyone. You must have faith that, if you’ve done everything right in the previous three steps, dating success will come. It won’t come overnight, but it will come. After you have completed the first three steps, you have one final step that you must take before you sign up for an online dating service.

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5) Write Down a List of Your Deal-breakers. Online Dating Site

How can you find your perfect match if you don’t know what you are looking for? The fifth and final step you need to take before signing up for an online dating service is to define your deal-breakers (a.k.a. red flags) and write them down. What characteristics or behaviors in a person will you absolutely walk away from?

The following is my list of deal-breakers. Remember that your deal-breakers could be different from mine depending on your tastes, what life stage you are in, or what you are willing to tolerate:

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  • She doesn’t treat me as a #1 priority.
  • She doesn’t follow through on promises and commitments.
  • She is impolite to strangers, co-workers, friends, family, or people in the service industry.
  • She has a negative attitude and is pessimistic most of the time.
  • She doesn’t want kids.
  • She has children.
  • She smokes.
  • She does drugs or is addicted to a substance of some sort.
  • She isn’t adventurous.
  • She is a terrible listener.
  • She can’t hold a decent conversation with me.
  • She isn’t physically attractive to me.
  • She doesn’t live in the same city (or close by).

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As soon as possible, get out a pen and paper or open up your computer and write down your deal-breakers. Keep this list somewhere that you can reference it once you are in the depths of online dating.

 

“Online Dating Success.

How to Find Love Anywhere in the World”

Addison Sears-Collins

 

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