Thursday, 17 Jan 2019

Secrets of Seduction

Secrets of Seduction

“The Little Book of Sex Secrets”

Nicole Bailey

What better place to start than with foreplay – being fully aroused is at the heart of sexual satisfaction. My top tip is that whatever your favourite type of foreplay, do it wholeheartedly. My favourite is slow and exploratory kissing that builds to a passionate tongue-twining crescendo.

GET INTO THE GROOVE. 

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

Good foreplay is like good dancing, so find a natural rhythm and don’t worry about the moves. Forget scripted ideas of what foreplay “should” be and, remember, foreplay doesn’t have to lead to sex – it can be the main event. My female friends have told me their top foreplay moments:

“I loved it when he sucked my fingers as he caressed me.”

“He pushed my legs apart and just breathed hotly on my clitoris. Then he started teasing me with little cat licks.”

“In the shower – he wrapped his arms around me from behind and started playing with my nipples. Then I turned round and went down on him.”

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Secrets of Seduction

USE MIRRORING. 

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

If he takes a sip of his drink, take one, too. If he changes position, change yours to match. Unconsciously, he’ll be flattered that you’re so highly in tune with him. In my experience, it’s good to keep your moves subtle. Go for reflection rather than obvious mimicry of his gestures and body language.

LAVISH HIM WITH COMPLIMENTS. 

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

Gaze directly at your partner and tell him how funny, intelligent, sexy or loveable he is. Most importantly, make sure you mean it.

TEASE HIM.

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

Try playfully withholding sex. It’ll make him feel he’s got to seduce, entice and woo you. I try never to be a sure thing (even if I am!).

MAKE IT PUBLIC. 

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

Flirt outrageously with your man in front of his friends. I’ve found that my lover adores the flattery when his friends can see I’ve only got eyes for him.

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Secrets of Seduction

LOOK HIM IN THE EYE …

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

Don’t speak. Even if you know each other inside out, prolonged eye contact feels unsettling and exciting. Gaze appreciatively at his lips, too (I always imagine giving my lover a hot, sexy kiss at this point).

BE NAUGHTY. 

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

Use symbolic gestures: purse your lips around a straw as you’re drinking or suck a lollipop and gaze up at him as you do so. Briefly lick your lips or twine your hair in your fingers.

TALK DIRTY. 

SECRETS OF SEDUCTION

My first boyfriend converted me to the joys of talking dirty. I was feeling sleepy, but my tiredness vanished as he whispered in my ear, “Open your legs, I want to lick you.” The sex that followed was hot! Once I experienced the naughty power of words, I suddenly got it: sex felt more adult, X-rated and exciting.

THE POWER OF WORDS:

  • You can change your entire sexual persona instantly. There’s no faster way to go from good girl to wicked girl.
  • You’ve got a readily available sex tool at your disposal – any time, any place. No one else need know.
  • If your lover’s erection is flagging, dirty talk can send blood rushing straight to where it’s needed.
  • If you’re apart, you can have amazing phone sex.
  • If you usually have sweet, lovey-dovey sex, dirty talk can charge up your sex life and make you see each other in a completely different – and more exciting – light. 

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Secrets of Seduction

 

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