Tuesday, 11 Dec 2018

Sex. Sexual Peaks Beyond Your Fantasies

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Why Orgasmic?

You can become the best possible lover your partner has ever had. Whatever level of experience or quality you currently have, you can go far beyond it. It goes without saying that sex is very important in relationship.

You can give your wife or partner sexual peaks beyond either of your fantasies: over a hundred orgasms within a single lovemaking session; orgasm-induced fainting; squirting (female ejaculation). All of these and more are possible, even easy, provided you focus on your partner’s pleasure over your own.

Women want (and deserve) to reach the pinnacle of their sexual potential! Sadly, few ever do. The idea of possibly having a few orgasms during sex (let alone twenty, fifty, or even a hundred) seems a fantasy to women—a nice one to be sure—but a fantasy that is unattainable nonetheless. The same can be said about the quality of their climaxes: relatively few women have ever orgasmed so hard during sex that they squirted, screamed, or passed out. Yet nearly every woman has the potential to achieve orgasms in both the quality and quantity I have just described—as long as their partner knows how to make it happen.

(Note: There are some women who are the rare exceptions to this, as they may suffer from anorgasmia, a sexual disorder that makes climax physically impossible. If your partner is unable to respond to the practices in this book, consider consulting a physician.)

As a man and as a husband, I don’t just want to gratify my wife; I want to bring her to the peaks of ecstasy. I love her and want to be her best—and only—source of extreme sexual pleasure. In other words, I want to rock her world so hard that she can’t get enough of me! And I bet you want your partner to feel the same way.

After putting this book into practice, you will see your partner experience heightened sexual ecstasy. If she rarely orgasmed before, she will now! If she usually just gets one or two orgasms, now she’ll have six or seven. And if she is multi-orgasmic to start with, expect her to regularly have twelve to seventeen climaxes—or more!

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Guide for Men on Sexually Satisfying Women

But this book is not just about increasing the number and intensity of your partner’s orgasms. It’s about making your whole relationship better by starting at the most primal level: sexual connection and exploration. It may even be about falling in love with your partner all over again or saving your marriage. This book addresses physical acts, but through the physical, it will help you improve the mental, emotional, and even spiritual connection between you and your partner—and strengthening all these connections can only lead to good things for both of you! After all, women do not tend to complain when their partners become better and more attentive lovers.

While being a great lover doesn’t eliminate your flaws outside the bedroom, it will help improve your relationship across the board.

Making Love vs. Having Sex

As you explore new sexual areas and activities with your partner, you will discover a spectrum which runs between two types of sexual activity: “making love” and “having sex” (or “fucking”).

The act of making love is gentle and slow, passionate and affectionate. It usually involves the missionary, cowgirl, or spoon positions. Making love is a joyful  elebration of love between you and your partner. No one’s in a hurry. There is often a lot of foreplay, and any oral sex is gentle and loving. During lovemaking, you look deeply into each other’s eyes, share tender kisses, caress each other’s skin and hold each other close. Afterwards, you cuddle and spoon, embracing with your limbs intertwined, enjoying the closeness while whispering your love to each other. Making love is enduring. It’s the staple of the most stable long-term relationships. It reminds both partners how much they love and cherish each other. At the other end of the spectrum from making love is having sex or “fucking.” It is rough, fast, athletic, and sweaty, with lots of pumping, groaning, yelling, swearing, and screaming. It can include athletic, and sweaty, with lots of pumping, groaning, yelling, swearing, and screaming. It can include harsh oral sex, every conceivable position (especially doggy style), derogatory language and name-calling, spanking, hair pulling, and/or ejaculating in the woman’s mouth or on her face. It sometimes incorporates anal sex, sex toys, bondage, or fisting. While making love makes your woman feel cherished; having sex inundates her with sexual pleasure until she can’t take any more.

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Here’s the thing: women enjoy both the gentleness of making love and the hot and wild excitement of fucking.

Don’t believe me? Try this experiment. Next time you and she are in the mood, tell her you want to try the other type of sex that you don’t normally do. Then watch her melt with excitement.

Any relationship needs a healthy combination of both types of sex. The occasional rough and wild sex (or gentle and loving sex, if that’s rarer) can reinvigorate a stale relationship almost by itself. No woman reminisces about the type of sex she always has over the years; she remembers the times that stand out for being different, surprising, or amazing. Even years later, she’ll turn to you and ask “Honey, can we fuck/make love like we did that time we first tried it?”

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Guide for Men on Sexually Satisfying Women

The Best Sex is Between Two People in Love

Young men may imagine Hugh Hefner, Ron Jeremy, and Jonah Falcon have the best lives in the world, but in reality, there is no life more satisfying than one where a loving husband and wife grow old together.

I know it’s hard to believe, especially if you’re young, but there is more to life than sex. Having sex with dozens of partners may seem glamorous but it can never compare to a loving, respectful relationship with your wife.

As we age and mature, we realize a life of sex with strangers rapidly becomes boring and meaningless. We long to move on from casual sex and build a romantic and passionate sex life with someone we love and who loves us in return.

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Like most guys, I went through a phase where I would try to have sex with as many women as I can. After having sex, I’d move on to the next woman, then the next and the next and the next.

It wasn’t wonderful. Frankly, it was exhausting! I was always putting on a show, constantly trying to be charming and looking my best. The goal was to have sex, but something was missing: if sex was the goal, why did it feel the same with most women and why did I feel empty inside afterwards? Why did I lose interest in these women after having sex, even with those who were great at it and were willing to try anything—even when I knew I was guaranteed to have fantastic sex with them anytime I wanted?

Looking back, it is obvious what was wrong: we weren’t in love with each other. It wasn’t until I fell in love with a woman who loved me with equal intensity that “sex with one woman” became addictive.

Marriage was wonderful! Sex was more meaningful and gratifying, I could have sex without the drama of being a “player” and I didn’t feel like crap afterwards. As a bonus, I had sex much more often than when I was single.

After my wife’s death, I started playing the game once more but I couldn’t take it. I hated being single again. I knew firsthand the difference between casual sex and loving sex. I was also more mature and couldn’t help but analyze my dissatisfaction objectively. It wasn’t a mystery anymore—I could see and appreciate that I needed to love and be loved again.

Into this void stepped another magnificent woman who’s now my wife and sex is great once more.

Keep Your Eyes Focused On Your Wife or Partner

Experienced men know that no woman, no matter how attractive or sexy she is, or how large her breasts are, or how firm and round her butt is, has a sexual advantage over another woman (even the most average-looking woman). Why? Because if a man is blind and cannot see the appearance of the woman he’s having sex with, the sensations he’s feeling and the quality of his orgasms are independent of what the woman looks like. This is where the cliché that “all women are the same in the dark” comes from. The “important bits” of a woman’s body that give pleasure to a man during sex are mostly uniform among all women (i.e., aroused vaginas feel the same: they are all warm, wet, and soft).

I’m an average guy: I look at other sexy and attractive women, and yes, any woman displaying cleavage, a nice rack, or sexy ass is going to catch me looking at them. I’m not going to force myself to look away and pretend I never noticed. Yeah I checked her out, so what? It’s instinctive and natural for both men and women to look, and I don’t apologize for being human.

My wife’s the same way. When I’m walking with her in public, she’s usually the one pointing out the provocatively dressed woman by telling me, “Titties on the right!” or “Check out the butt on that woman!” Yes, I even imagine having sex with some of them—just like you do. It’s an automatic response.

This doesn’t mean I should act out on those instincts. I just remind myself that no matter how appealing the package, the sexy woman’s vagina is still the same as any other women’s—and I can’t get an orgasm greater than what I’m getting with the woman I love.

A woman’s skill and enthusiasm are far more important factors in giving you fantastic orgasms. This is why having a happy wife who’s in love with you gives you everything you need in the orgasm department. No fling or affair with the young hottie at the gym can compare to the consistency of fantastic orgasms with a partner that both loves and respects you.

Think about it. Is the chase and excitement of an affair worth it? What can another woman give you that your wife can’t? Is another woman’s vagina special or different? What’s stopping you from having the new/different/ exciting sex you want . . . with your wife?

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If your sex life has become mundane and stale at home, the solution is not to look elsewhere. The solution is to do whatever you need to do to start having wild, hot, passionate sex, again, with the person who has committed her life to you. Think carefully about what is missing in your relationship from the reality of when you first got together and couldn’t keep your hands off each other. What changed? Work? Kids? Weight? Attitude? Boredom? Familiarity? It is up to you to change what can be changed and adapt to what cannot.

Remember when you two were so much in love and first started having sex? Did you ever look at her face while she was experiencing—or had just experienced—sexual ecstasy? Do you remember the emotions you felt—the intense and overwhelming love and affection towards her? Wasn’t it magical and intoxicating?

This is because sex between two who are in love with one another doesn’t have the feeling of shallowness or self-loathing that comes after casual sex. It has only bliss and contentment.

Wise men know they cannot get better orgasms from someone other than their wives. Develop a “What can I get from her that I cannot get from my wife—aside from heartache?” attitude. You’ll be much happier with the fantastic orgasms you’ll get from your wife or partner.

Foreplay, Foreplay, Foreplay

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The vast majority of the 100+ orgasms that I’ve given my partner in a single marathon sex session were the result of foreplay. My penis had very little to do with it. If you want to be a great lover, you’ve got to focus on foreplay, such as fingering or eating her out, and keep up that foreplay before, in between, and after penetrating her with your penis.

Most men know by now that women are usually not fully satisfied if all their partner does is penetrate them. But the way men understand foreplay is often still very limited. Playing with her breasts or kissing her for several seconds is nowhere near enough. Foreplay must be capable of giving women multiple orgasms, and above all, take a looooooooooooong time! Following the techniques in this book will make her climax faster and more often, but the point is not to get her off so that you can move on to your own climax; the point is to bring her to ecstasy over and over and over before your penis gets anywhere near her vagina.

Once you find out what kind of foreplay gets your partner off (fingering, breast play, eating her out, etc.), keep doing those things! Draw them out. Make them last as long as you can and repeat them as often as you can.

Think of Her Pleasure, Not Yours

Make a habit of finding out what she wants you to do to her. What gives her maximum pleasure? Do  you know how she wants you to lick her vulva? How roughly or gently should you suck her clitoris? Should you slip a finger (or two or three) into her vagina? If so, when, how deep, and how fast? Where should your fingers point? Do you know where her G-spot is?

If you don’t know these things, ask her! The sooner you know what gives her the best pleasure, the sooner you will become an expert in satisfying her.

Have regular lovemaking sessions where you focus on her desires and wants. These are treats for your love—your orgasm should be secondary to her pleasure. If she gets exhausted from repeated orgasms and needs to stop and rest before you’ve had a chance to climax, learn to live with that. With practice, you’ll eventually determine the right timing to introduce penetration and get to your own climax. Until then, your reward is the knowledge you’ve given her more pleasure than she’s ever had before, and that you are now her personal “sex god.”

Don’t Follow the Porn Film Formula

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Porn films usually follow a set formula: foreplay for a few minutes → machine-like intercourse → male ejaculation. This method may be fine for selling movies to other men, but it is incapable of giving your partner the best sex she’s ever had. In my experience, giving a woman ultimate and repeated pleasure follows a very different formula: foreplay for at least fifteen minutes → penetration → more foreplay → more penetration → more foreplay → more penetration → etc.

Note that your ejaculation doesn’t come into the picture for obvious reasons: your orgasm does not make her climax. It actually signals the end of your efforts to satisfy her.

Everything you do must be designed to make her repeatedly climax. Using different positions creates variety and new sensations, which get heightened in the glow of her building arousal and sensitivity. Rapid and intense orgasms follow.

So if you feel like ejaculating—pull out, quickly! Give your penis time to settle down. Go back to using your mouth or hands or another object to keep stimulating her. When your jaw or arm gets tired and your penis has recovered, resume intercourse for a few minutes. Then repeat the process.

Don’t Rush. Take as Much Time as You Both Need

Stop thinking about your erection and your need to ejaculate. Focus on pleasuring her with your lips, tongue, nose, fingers, hands, and whatever else you may have handy. You can come later.

Women need time to warm up and get aroused to the point where they become multi-orgasmic. The secret is to take your time. Explore and stimulate her body. Make her climax repeatedly within a duration you can handle. Can you only spend a half hour pleasuring her? Then do so. Can you do it for an hour? Excellent. Can you devote two hours to giving her orgasms? You’ll be her hero.

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Guide for Men on Sexually Satisfying Women

Get Rid of the Television in the Bedroom

Remember how the physical side is only part of the deal? If you want to become a sex god to your partner, her psychological and mental attitude is just as important as her physical readiness—and probably more so. It’s vital, therefore, to create the right environment to encourage her to be open to ascending to new sexual levels. Creating this environment starts with your priorities.

As a man who’s worked up to a hundred-hour weeks to beat deadlines, and who’s raised a handful of children, I know how hard it is to devote your free time to your wife’s needs. The pressures of work, taking care of the kids, handling various crises, and a ton of other distractions make us too tired for our partner’s well-being and needs. We self-medicate with TV and booze, and sex gets rarer and less exciting by the week. Neither you nor your wife is happy, and divorce may be right around the corner.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Get your priorities in order. What is more important to you: Watching the results of the numerous sporting events at night or having hot and steamy sex with your wife? Watching the late-night talk shows or having wild monkey sex with your beautiful lady? Watching the news or banging groins with your lover?

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Get the picture? The best first step to giving your wife great sexual satisfaction is moving the television out of your bedroom. Use the time you were going to spend watching it for making your wife happy instead. This doesn’t have to be sex every night. It could be just staying there with her, cuddling, listening to her tell you how her day was, or talking about whatever comes up.

While you’re at it, turn off the smart phones and tablets and disconnect from the Internet. Your relationship is more important than any web-based gratification.

Being with you and receiving your attention makes her happy. Her happiness in your presence and with you is the foundation to having a great marriage or relationship. That state of mind is the key to giving her the best sex of her life and continued companionship that lasts a lifetime.

To be continued…

“ORGASMIC. An Illustrated Guide for Men on Sexually Satisfying Women”

EDWARD K. WATSON

Geoffrey Klepeis, Illustrator

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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