Friday, 14 Dec 2018

The Four Basic Sex Positions. Anal Sex

THE FOUR BASIC SEX POSITIONS

There are dozens of different sex positions. By all means, try them all— learn the various positions of the Kama Sutra and exercises of the Tantra with your partner if you want. Have fun experimenting and trying out new things. And, if your partner has a favorite position, use it—a lot.

To give her the greatest possible number of orgasms in one session, find out the positions your partner really enjoys. To explore what those are, start with the four basic sex positions and their variants:
Man-on-top or Missionary Sex Position
Woman-on-top or Cowgirl Sex Position
Rear-entry or Doggy Sex Position
Side-by-side or Spooning Sex Position

Most of the other “exotic” sex positions can be tiring for both partners, and some require a great deal of flexibility—or time—to get into. If your body can’t easily get into those fancy sex positions, don’t force it. This extra effort may sap your energy, inflict pain, or distract from your goal of giving her the best sex of her life. Back when I was younger and a lot more limber than I am now, I bought a book showing the different Kama Sutra sex positions and thought it’d be fun to try them out. While trying to get into the “correct” sex positions, I felt a sudden burning pain in my back that quickly escalated into excruciating agony where it even hurt to breathe. I had to go to the hospital emergency room where they gave me an injection to relax my muscles and remove the pain. Needless to say, trying to force my body into contortions it wasn’t used to wasn’t a very good idea and really messed up the sexual experience.

Man-on-top or Missionary Position. Sex Positions for Your Pleasure

 

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Sex Positions

Sex Positions

The missionary sex position is by far the most common sexual position in our culture and is one of the best positions to give her multiple orgasms since you can directly stimulate her clitoris with your pubic mound. In this sex position, straddle your partner as she lies on her back or is reclined at an angle with her legs Variations of this position have you placing your arms between her knees, holding her legs up by her calves, placing one or both of her legs up on one or both of his shoulders, lying on top of her (if you’re not too heavy), standing or kneeling while she’s lying down, or having her legs wrapped around you. If she’s flexible, you can move her legs all the way up by her head to allow for extra-deep penetration. But do not be afraid to experiment with sex positions. Our life is short, so try and do everything you want. 🙂

Woman-on-top or Cowgirl Position. 

Sex Positions for Your Pleasure

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Sex Positions

Sex Positions

This sex position has her straddling you as you lie on your back or are in a reclining position. This position allows her to control the depth and pace of lovemaking. It also allows her to grind her clit against your cock or pubic bone. This sex position gives the woman many choices: (1) She can squat onto your penis, allowing long strokes; (2) she can sit on your penis and rub her clit, taking short strokes and avoiding strenuous movement; (3) she can go on her knees for rapid pumping (4); she can lie down on you and/or intertwine her limbs with yours. Variations of this alluring sex position have the woman facing you, so that you can play with her breasts; facing your feet (usually called “reverse cowgirl”); facing off to the side; or having you sit upright or at an incline to embrace her. There are a lot of different sex positions, but with the help of this you can be sure that your partner will get the best orgasm.

Rear-entry or Doggy Position. 

Sex Positions for Your Pleasure

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Sex Positions

Sex Positions

This is one of the best sex positions, because this sex position has you penetrating your partner from behind while she is either on her hands and knees or lying chest down with her butt elevated. Variations of this position have you kneeling or standing with her on her hands and knees or with her legs straight out and having a pillow beneath her groin. Doggy style allows for extra-deep penetration (and is often ideal for men with large stomachs). This position gives a different sensation to women who are used to the other basic positions, especially if their partners have curved penises, since the penis now puts pressure on a different side of her vagina. This is also one of ideal sex positions for anal sex and for spanking the woman’s rump during intercourse. 

Side-by-side or Spooning Position. 

Sex Positions for Your Pleasure

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Sex Positions

Sex Positions

This sex position has you facing one another (side-by-side) or penetrating your partner from behind (spooning) while both are lying together. This position is designed for intimate lovemaking rather than hard sex. Overweight men will have a more difficult time with this position since their stomachs get in the way (though, to be fair, overweight women often struggle with it as well due to their larger hips and butts). Variations have your partner elevating one leg to allow deeper penetration (making a triangle with her foot down, lifting her leg up on her own, or having you hold her leg up). She can push her butt out while arching her back. You can hold her rump or shoulders instead of embracing her. She can lie on her back while you’re a bit off-center, allowing a scissor position. Again, the options are limited only by your imagination.

Don’t Restrict Yourselves to the Four Sex Positions

While the four basic sex positions are the most common, there are many others. Go experiment and try new things and give your wife the best sex of her life.

THE ANUS: THE SECRET WEAPON TO MIND-BLOWING ORGASMS. SEX POSITIONS FOR ANAL SEX

Warning: Do not attempt anal sex or any insertion into your partner’s anus if she does not already enjoy the experience nor explicitly gives approval. The risk of her experiencing extreme pain or distastefulness will destroy any possible pleasure you could give her. It should go without saying that even touching her anus requires your partner’s clear and enthusiastic consent. Ask first, guys. Let’s face it; men are obsessed with the female anus. Watching porn scenes with anal sex has aroused lots of men into suggesting their partners allow them to “go Greek” or try the “back door.”

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Sex Positions

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Many women are open to trying anal sex, but some find the experience unpleasant, even painful, especially if the man only wants to climax in a girl’s anus and treats it like a second vagina—which it absolutely isn’t. Let me repeat myself because this is so important: the anus is not a second vagina and it will not tolerate a penis suddenly ramming into it. Ignorant men have frankly ruined anal sex for a LOT of women. It is understandable that after one bad anal sex experience that no woman would want to try it again. This is unfortunate, because the anus can actually give many women astonishing pleasure and repeated orgasms. This chapter will explore how to do that cleanly, safely, and without causing your partner any pain—only pleasure!

Make Sure the Anus is Clean and Germ-free. Many of you have seen anal porn scenes where the woman gets undressed and the man immediately starts licking her anus. Do NOT actually try this; you’ll be revolted. You’ll literally get a taste of leftover shit, and there is nothing worse than that. Not only is it gross, it is highly dangerous with the billions of pathogens in human waste. Spontaneous anal licking simply should not happen, no matter what porn says.

The absolute, inviolable rule of anal play is that the woman must always wash using soap and water (with an optional application of a nontoxic disinfectant) before you do anything to her anus. Using a dental dam, condom, or plastic wrap that creates a physical barrier between her anus and your mouth or penis isn’t a bad idea either. Make sure any lubrication is between the barrier and the anus to ensure it doesn’t dry out from the friction. One of the best options is a female condom, because the lubrication between the condom and her anus won’t rub off as you are thrusting in and out.

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

If you’re going to go beyond anal licking to anal fingering or anal sex, always use enemas or a bidet first. While it is true the anus is normally free of feces until right before defecating, it is simply idiotic to risk having feces on your tongue or penis by assuming no “need to poop” means that no poop is actually present. In this one case, I will tell you to do what the porn stars do. “Spontaneous” anal sex in porn films can happen because the actress had an enema before filming. She’s washed that feces out, literally. If you’re going to have anal sex with your partner, she should clean out her rectum first. A warm water enema is generally adequate in most cases (as opposed to buying a commercial enema).

Helpful hint: To use an enema, lubricate her anus and the end of the enema bag (or douche bottle tubing). Gently insert the tubing around one and a half to two inches (4-5 cm) inside her anus. Release one to one and a half quarts (or liters) of warm water into the anus. Have her hold it in for several minutes, shaking and massaging the lower abdomen, and then expel the wastewater into the toilet. Repeat and rinse several times with warm water. She could also use a bidet so she can control the flow of water that cleans the anus. The stream is usually strong enough to actually enter the anus and clean up to two inches or 5 cm inside. Just have your partner open her anus by pretending to defecate when the stream of water is directly on the opening. Water will then wash her and be expelled into the toilet. Repeat this several times for a clean anus, ready for the pleasures to come. Warning: Do not ask your partner to give you a blowjob after your penis has been in her anus if you didn’t use a condom, regardless of how clean you think her anus is. There is always the possibility of her tasting feces. This will kill your lovemaking session. And, besides, it isn’t hygienic.

Things to Do with the Anus

Many people have the mistaken notion that intercourse is the only pleasurable thing that can be done to the anus. Nothing could be further from the truth! Many other things can be done to the anus, such as the following:
Licking Nose-rubbing
Kissing Fingering
Sucking Stimulating the G-spot or vaginal wall
Blowing Tickling
Rubbing and massaging Inserting sex toys and other objects
As you can see, if your partner isn’t interested in anal sex, there are many things that can be done to the anus that can give her intense orgasms. Try a few and see which (if any) she enjoys.

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Stop! The Anus Can’t Be Rushed. Repeat after me: “The anus is not a second vagina. The anus is not a second vagina.” The sphincter muscles are very tight and will resist any forceful penetration. Would you rush a virgin vagina? Of course not. Any woman who is rushed will feel intense pain instead of pleasure. She may even have her anal tissue tear and bleed. Take your time with the anus. You must wait until the sphincter muscles relax before moving forward. It is your job to make your partner calm and tranquil so that her inner sphincter muscles relax to the point of allowing themselves to be pried opened. Calm her fears. Reassure her. Go slowly and always be gentle. This will relax the tension of the inner sphincter.

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Be sure to lubricate (more than you think you need to!) and loosen her anus before any insertion. Since your partner knows what hurts and where, it is always preferable for her to loosen her own anus. By inserting her fingers or using gradually larger objects such as sex toys, she can pull the sphincter open to allow your penis to slowly penetrate her.
If she wants you to loosen her anus, remember to never attempt to just stick your penis or finger into it without taking time to loosen up the sphincter and slather the anus with lots of lubricant. Always start with small items, like your finger, before moving on to larger objects like your penis. When attempting to insert your finger into her anus, make sure your fingernails are trimmed and avoid using the point or tip of the finger, like you’re poking something. Use the ball of the finger (where your fingerprint is located), and only after loosening the sphincter with a firm circular motion.

When your finger is inside, move it in a circular motion to loosen the sphincter further. Maintain pressure until the sphincter muscles relax. When it is loose enough, insert a second finger into the anus. Keep moving your fingers around to create greater space, always making sure the anus is well lubricated. Keep maintaining pressure until the sphincter muscles relax enough to accept your penis or another object. A remarkable technique to loosen the anus while giving great sexual pleasure at the same time is to loosen it to the point where you can insert two fingers into it and then slowly shake your hand in different directions until your arm becomes a blur. Try to use the last two fingers of your hand in her anus while your thumb rubs her clitoris or lick her clitoris while your fingers are loosening the anus. Another effective way to loosen the anus is to use anal vibrators and butt plugs.

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Warnings About Anal SexNever insert an object into the vagina that has come from the anus without first washing it in soap and water or using a new condom. This can result in painful vaginal infections. One way of working around this is to have a female condom inserted into the anus and, possibly, a second female condom inserted into the vagina. This way you can switch orifices without risking your partner’s health.

During anal sex, it is possible to inflict pain on your partner, not just at the sphincter area when the anus is hastily penetrated, but also within the rectum. Some women’s rectal folds transmit pain when the head of the penis touches them. If this happens, try using a different position, especially if your penis is curved (e.g., instead of rear entry, try missionary), in order for the curvature of your penis to bypass the problematic rectal fold. If the problem persists, abandon all efforts at anal sex. It’s also a good idea for her to see a proctologist to find out why she is experiencing pain. In other words: if it hurts her, try a different position or stop altogether.

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Licking is Often Better and Never Hurts. Warning: Do not lick your partner’s anus if there is a possibility of disease transmission to either party. The fecal-oral and anal-oral route of numerous diseases and sexually-transmitted illnesses is well established. Sores and cuts of any kind increase the risk exponentially. Make sure she has pooped, washed, cleaned, and used an enema, and that she has no open cuts or sores.

If your lady does not enjoy anal sex, you might ask to try “analingus” or anal licking. In this scenario, nothing penetrates the anus, and the sensitive nerves of the anus are stimulated into giving her multiple orgasms.
Before you do so, the woman must wash with soap and water to remove all traces of feces and bacteria. If she has hemorrhoids or other kinds of medical conditions, always use a dental dam, female condom, or reinforced plastic cling wrap to create a physical barrier between your mouth and her anus, but with the lubrication on the other side of the barrier (between the barrier and the anus). This way, she will still get all the pleasure and experience every movement and sensation of your lips and tongue on her anus without you risking anyone’s health in the process. (When using a dental dam or condom, make sure the lubricant you are using is water-based.)

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

If you prefer not to use a barrier and want to taste her while knowing for a fact the risk of disease transmission and fecal tasting is nonexistent or minimal, make sure to drool and never swallow. Generate lots of saliva while you’re licking her anus. This will not just provide lubrication, but will also minimize the risk of you tasting something unpleasant or getting infected with a disease.

Newsflash: Vaginal Sex Feels Better than Anal Sex to Both Women and Men . Despite its portrayal as the best sex in modern pornography, and despite its potential for amazing orgasms, anal sex is not as pleasurable as regular penis-in-vagina sex is. Frankly, the fantasy of anal sex does not measure up to the actual sensations. The thrill is purely psychological: it is kinky, naughty, atypical, dirty, and boosts a man’s ego—but that’s it. Why? Because her anus is not designed to stimulate either you or your partner to orgasm (even though with some effort it can do so), while her vagina most definitely is designed for precisely that. Given a choice between only having anal sex or vaginal sex, there’s no doubt most couples will choose vaginal sex. Because of this, anal sex happens occasionally or not at all, while vaginal sex is the undisputed champion.

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Sex Positions. Anal Sex

Sex Positions. Anal Sex

When to Stimulate the Anus for Maximum Orgasms. You can play with, lick, or penetrate your partner’s anus at any time provided you’ve prepared to do so, but the best time to begin anal stimulation is after she has experienced several orgasms. Slowly move your tongue over her perineum (the skin right below her vulva) and toward her anus, all the while keeping your nose or fingers in contact with her clitoris and vagina. Begin licking and drilling into her anus with your tongue while stimulating her vagina and clitoris at the same time. This technique results in a rapid succession of very powerful orgasms. Another method is to take really long licks that extend from the anus to the clitoris. While doing so, also engage your chin and nose in rubbing onto the whole area. Slow it down to build anticipation, and then increase the speed of the licks as you vary the firmness and position of your tongue and lips. This should last for at least three to five minutes, depending on the frequency of her orgasms.

Lastly, don’t forget you’re doing all these things for her pleasure, not yours. If she doesn’t want you to play with her anus, don’t force the issue. It’s her choice to miss out on the amazing orgasms of anal stimulation, and thus it’s your job to give her that much more pleasure in the ways she really wants it.

“ORGASMIC. An Illustrated Guide for Men on Sexually Satisfying Women”

EDWARD K. WATSON

Geoffrey Klepeis, Illustrator

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