Sex Toys. How To Make Sex Better
THE SEDUCTION. SEX TOYS: In this seduction, you and your lover will have a friendly competition to see who can surprise the other with the most exotic or unusual sex toy.
SETTING THE SCENE. SEX TOYS: First, set a budget. Then, decide on a schedule. Perhaps you’ll only exchange one present each. If you choose to exchange more, why not plan a week of gift-giving? The trick here is to get each other the most exotic, outlandish sex toys you can find and afford. Here are a few ideas.
VIBRATORS. SEX TOYS: Browse through high-end websites like Coco de Mer, Jimmyjane, Kiki de Montparnasse, or Good Vibrations and you’ll find that vibrators have come a long way. Even famous industrial designers are having a crack at the luxe adult toy market: at Myla. com, Scott Henderson’s “C-Shell” looks like a pretty loop; while Tom Dixon’s “Bone” was inspired by ancient fertility symbols. Or go for laughs and buy her the most outlandish penis-resembling vibrator you can find: the Japanese Rabbit Pearl is a classic!
BONDAGE AND FETISH. SEX TOYS: Silk blindfolds. Furry cuffs. Bamboo riding crops. You’re only limited by your imagination and budget. Feeling more daring? The Bed Web is a restraint system that tucks between your mattress and box spring. Once you’ve got your partner tied down, you’ll want to find a pretty paddle with which to administer his “punishment.”
SEX FURNITURE. SEX TOYS: Try Liberator Shape “bedroom adventure gear” like The Wedge or The Ramp. Similar is the Bonk’er, a “positioning system” with two arms that attach to wide rectangular bases that fit under your mattress.
THE SEDUCTION. SEX TOYS: In Renaissance Italy, dildos were called dilettos, from the phrase “to delight.” And “delight” is exactly what this seduction will do.
SETTING THE SCENE: The first step is to buy your dildo, but since these toys come in such a wide variety of shapes, sizes, and materials, you’ll need to involve your gal. Tell her that you need help in ordering a very special present for her. Then snuggle up on the couch and do some online shopping. Would she like a realistic feeling? Look for dildos made of silicone, Cyberskin, or, more affordably, jelly rubber. Or would she prefer a more rigid sensation? If so, opt for acrylic or glass.
TECHNIQUES: Once you have your dildo in hand, instruct your gal to get comfortable on the bed. No matter how aroused she is when you start, always apply lubricant to the dildo.
Begin by caressing her labia with the lubed head of your toy. Tease, then massage her clitoris with it until her love juices are flowing. Be sure to ask her what feels good. When she’s fully aroused, grasp the dildo firmly and gently penetrate her opening with the head. Start by just dipping the “glans” inside, moving slowly until you both become used to the dildo’s weight and hardness. Let her move to receive it until you know how much she can take. With rigid (wood, glass, or acrylic dildos), the deeper it goes, the less she needs to move; the dildo’s weight and ridges (if it has them) will create the sensations. Tease her with short, slow strokes at first, building up to longer, deeper strokes. Use your free hand to stroke her clitoris, and watch her face to see her ecstasy mount. When you think she can’t stand it anymore, slip the toy out and replace it with your penis.
Cynthia W. Gentry