Tuesday, 11 Dec 2018

Sexual Fantasies. True Sex Stories

Sexual Fantasies

KATRIN, Germany

“SOMETHING IS TOUCHING MY SKIN, LIKE THE SUN, OR THE RAIN, AND I IMAGINE THIS WHILE I’M HAVING AN ORGASM…”

Orgasm is a very private and important subject. Intimate life, sexual fantasies and desires are a very interesting topic, are not they? I find it important to be able to live it out freely and feel it. And if you don’t have this freedom, you always have the feeling that you’re suppressing something. And if you are free or able to relax, then that’s wonderful. It’s like you are really close to somebody. You trust him. You feel really comfortable and safe. This is quite strong, and this strong feeling is really good for me, very relaxing not to think about anything. That’s all. My head is really empty, and that’s good. You don’t feel any problems, and it’s nice when you feel this.

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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual Fantasies. I can’t remember my first orgasm and my first sexual fantasies. When you get your first boyfriend, you are still quite young, so you don’t really know what an orgasm is—what it is and how it is. I think that during the last years, I have felt them more than before. But I think it’s not bad that I can’t remember, because the last years were like a mystery. It was a growing process. It eventually happened, but I can’t really remember, because it went step by step. I think when you really trust a person, you can feel this. When you can fall down and you let everything go, then can you feel it—but not when you still don’t feel at home, so to speak. I didn’t talk to anybody—not to my boyfriend, not to my girlfriends. So I forgot it. During the first years with boyfriends, I was not so sure how it works. And then when it eventually happened, I couldn’t really talk to anybody. So I have no real first memory of any orgasm.

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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual Fantasies. When I get rid of all this stress, when I go to my flat, and everything else stays outside and I don’t think about anything, then I can have a really strong orgasm at any time. It’s not like it gets higher and higher and higher. When I’m feeling really comfortable, then it’s really good and really strong, and a really deep feeling every time. It’s not one time higher and one time less. This is with a friend. But when I’m really happy with myself and feeling good with myself, then I have a strong orgasm and very bright sexual fantasies every time. But if I come home with my problems and I’m really sad and really unhappy, then there is nothing. Then I can’t feel anything. It’s really hard then to let go. That’s not possible for me, because I’m a really feeling person. I do everything really from my heart. And when I’m really sad or angry about something, then I can’t switch. If I get more preoccupied with my business, then it might become less strong because I might have so much to think about. I enjoy it the way it is now, when I still can let go. And I want to save this, always.

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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual Fantasies. When I am having an orgasm, I have the fantasy or a lot of sexual fantasies at the same time, for example, that the sun is shining on my face, giving me a warm feeling. So it doesn’t work in the night, when the sun is not shining. But it’s a nice idea. And, for example, when it’s not cold outside, but it’s still snowing, it’s also nice to get the little snowflakes on your skin, but it’s too cold to go outside. Then you think about what it’s like when they touch your skin. I imagine this while I’m having my orgasm, and it makes it nicer. It’s not like with the hands, or in the water. It’s just to try to get this feeling that something is touching my skin, like the sun or the rain. But these images come, or they don’t come, automatically. These sexual fantasies drive me crazy…

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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual Fantasies. The role of orgasm and sexual fantasies is a secret for every person. And I often have the feeling that it’s only over here that we’re so prudish, and that people elsewhere are not so prudish, that they talk about it a lot more. Men talk about this—maybe not really in detail, but they talk about this. And women are so shy and so introverted. So it’s a secret for every person and for every couple, and it’s really important that it’s just for them, just for their closeness, that nobody else knows about this, of course. But it’s also a secret for every woman, and I think it is important to know that it is a secret. An orgasm (sexual fantasies) isn’t only within a partnership. Many things just can’t be explained, and I also think that not everything has to be explained.

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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual Fantasies. But one can at least try to open the secret, just a little bit. Not much, because it’s a personal thing, but just a little bit. And maybe we will be able to express ourselves a bit more and not think, you shouldn’t talk about this; you don’t have to talk about this. But I think it’s a good theme. And men express it much more than women. And I think it should be possible for women to talk about it as much as men talk about it. And if you’re unhappy, then maybe it’s just because you get in your own way, not letting yourself go, not letting yourself experience this. Perhaps you have no idea how you could let yourself go, or experience it.

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Sexual Fantasies

Sexual Fantasies. It would be good to establish more safety and openness so that women can know whether they have an orgasm/sexual fantasies, or wasn’t it an orgasm? And what is an orgasm? Our generation is in fact a bit more open. I think it used to be more extreme. You don’t hear or see anything about it. You don’t read anything about it except in some women’s magazines. I think that in the future, it would be good for girls to be able to talk about it while they are growing up. That’s the most important thing. After all, orgasm isn’t always with a partner. It is something about yourself, about getting to know yourself. I think maybe that’s the point.

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