Sleep with any Woman
Sleep With Any Woman Yes, sleep. As in hibernate. (What were you thinking?) Learn to stack easy z’s and wake up refreshed Keeping your missus up all night isn’t something to brag about. In fact, about one in four couples sleep in separate beds because they just can’t sleep together. A groggy partner is a cranky partner. “If that person is waking up grumpy and it’s a new relationship, it’ll probably get worse over time,” says sleep expert Dr. Rafael Pelayo. “Lack of sleep makes people feel irritable, inattentive and sometimes even guilty because they bark at their partner in the morning.” See if any of these problems sound familiar, then take action to sleep well tonight.
Snoring keeps one of you up all night
Sleep on your side to keep your tongue out of the way, Pelayo suggests. Or do palate exercises, like pushing the tip of your tongue against the roof of your mouth and then sliding your tongue backward. In a 2015 Brazilian study, such exercises – involving the tongue, soft palate, and hard palate – reduced snoring frequency by 36 percent.
She’s always cold and you’re a furnace
Women tend to feel colder than men because their smaller frame and higher body fat equals a slower metabolism. And once you hit dreamland, your internal thermometer changes: “You tend to feel colder in the morning than at the start of the night,” Pelayo says.
MEN ARE MORE SATISFIED WITH
RELATIONSHIPS AFTER A GOOD SLEEP
One of you is a restless sleeper
Go royal: with a queen or king mattress, you’ll have more elbow room. A Sleep Number bed (air chambers for each side) or memory foam mattress isolates movement. On a budget? Wedge a body pillow between you and your bed-mate, Pelayo says. Or try slipping into a thin sleeping bag beneath the sheets.
Your arm to sleep Curling up together can have direct physiological benefits – like reducing stress responses, says behavioral and social scientist Dr. Wendy Troxel. Start out in a bodies-touching position to generate Oxycontin (the “cuddle hormone”), suggests body language expert Patti Wood. Then segue into something more conducive to slumber. The back-to-back “Zen position” reveals trust and the ability and desire to be independent, Wood says, but the “tushie touch” shows that you want to stay sexually connected. It’s all about the Oxycontin: scientists in France say this hormone makes men perceive their partner as more attractive than other, unfamiliar women, possibly making the men less prone to infidelity. (Good for you both!)
She wants to sleep
You’re wide awake Your chronotypes may be out of sync. Altering your chronotype isn’t easy, says sleep researcher Dr. Heather Gunn. Is your partner’s internal clock powering down as The Bachelor credits roll while yours ticks on towards midnight? Try hitting the sack separately. “If you wake up feeling good,” Pelayo says, “all is forgiven in the morning.”
Sleeplessness is tearing you apart
Two words: separate beds. A good night’s sleep trumps all. One study found men are more satisfied with their relationship after a good sleep. Snuggle (or more) before retiring to separate beds, then regroup in the morning. That’s when you’re more likely to share intimate thoughts, which can lead to other things your bed is built for.