To Forgive or not to Forgive?
“It takes a strong person to say sorry, and an even stronger person to forgive”.
Nobody is perfect, all people make mistakes. It goes without saying that every relationship has its ups and downs, joys and sorrows, smiles and tears. But even bad experience has something positive because if the relationship is strong enough, it will only bring people closer and will help them to understand that they can rely on each other, no matter what. On the other hand, if your relationship with your partner is not so strong, most likely even a little misunderstanding can break them. Anyway, all depends on your feelings and on the feelings of your man/woman. When your relationship has been damaged, can it be restored? And is it possible to forgive and forget?
Of course, when you have been really hurt, it is pretty hard to forget and forgive everything fast and easy. Forgiveness is not always easy. It is much more than just the phrases “Forgive me” or “Yes, I forgive you”. Forgiveness is a state of soul when you feel understanding and relief and only if you sincerely love someone, you can forgive him/her completely. As they say, there is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. Will you be able to forget everything? It depends on you and on the reason of your quarrel.
There are a lot of people who in principle cannot forgive such things like lie, cheating or violence in the family. One of the most important things in the relationship is trust, so if after your quarrel or misunderstanding you lost your trust to your partner, most likely nothing good will come from your relationship. But try to be understanding, even if it is pretty hard. If two people sincerely want to be together, they will do their best to find a common language and a compromise.
Forgiving means you are letting it go. So if you decide to forgive your man/woman, do not remind him/her about his/her mistake all the time and do not discuss this with other people. Your relationship is only your relationship, so do not interfere someone else to this. You can be sure that there is no benefit for you in telling others about the quarrel. It will not help you to feel better, vice versa – you will only be feeding your feelings of resentment and distrust. So do your best to keep your misunderstanding private.
All people have the bad experience, but such situations make us stronger and help us to understand the real feelings and intentions of another person (your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife). Anyway, try to leave your past in the past if you want to become happy and build a joyful future. To forgive or not to forgive? Only you know the answer to this question. Listen to your own heart.