Tuesday, 18 Sep 2018

Ultimate Orgasm. How To Satisfy A Woman In Bed

Where do you start on your path to ultimate orgasm if having orgasms is not even a regular occurrence for you? Well, I say, fake it till you make it. I would never suggest you actually fake it. That sends the wrong message to your partner. But getting in the zone by mimicking the things your body does when you are aroused can really get things going. Here are some easy ways to do that while engaging in sexual play, secrets of ultimate orgasm:

1.Use lube. As soon as you feel that slipperiness between your legs, your body will get the hint to get wetter.

2.Control your breathing. Start paying attention as you inhale and exhale, and speed up to bring your body up to speed.

3.Make some noise. There’s nothing like a little moaning and a few well-meaning ooohs and ahhhs to signal to your body what’s to come.

4.Get moving. Moving your pelvis is a great way to tell your body that things are about to get interesting. So don’t be shy about lifting your hips or wiggling your backside. And believe me, your partner won’t be complaining about the pre-show.

5.Talk dirty. There is nothing like saying words, all the naughty, otherwise “unsayable” words like pussy and wet and cock and fuck, to get your body and mind (and your partner’s body and mind) really and truly into it.

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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

All of these things can help to rev you and your partner up, which means you’ll get even more of that sexual attention you’re craving. It’s a win-win-win. Fingers are the ultimate instruments of pleasure for women.

The penis is what brings a man pleasure. But that does not mean that it is the primary instrument for bringing a woman pleasure. More on that in Chapter Seven. For now, it is imperative for you to know that a person’s fingers can more likely bring you to orgasm than any penis or other phallus can. “Many a woman swears that, hands down, nothing gets her off to a flying start and then accomplishes the mission like a lover’s adept fingers”. We all think it. It’s time we all said it. We like fingers, and for us, that’s not foreplay. It is the play.

Knowing this can allow you to advocate for what you desire. It’s okay to say that you prefer your partner’s fingers over all else. It’s not a dis or a commentary on a man’s manhood. It is just a fact, and it’s imperative that your partner understand that and not take it personally.

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Ultimate Orgasm
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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

It is vital for you both to understand that although you may be happy to have a man penetrate you for his pleasure, and although you may derive some pleasure from it, you are ultimately doing it for him. Not for you. There’s not a thing in the world wrong with that if it gives you pleasure to allow him to find his pleasure inside you. And women have all sorts of delicious nerve endings inside their pussies, so it makes perfectly good sense that being penetrated would feel good to us. But you do not owe it to a man to sacrifice your pleasure for his ego.

This is generally not an issue in a lesbian relationship because fingers are already presumed to be central during sex. But heterosexual women should take a page from the lesbian sex playbook on this one. Being a lesbian is not what makes fingers so satisfying. Being a woman is. Just because you might be straight shouldn’t mean you have to settle for a less satisfying sex life. It just means that you will likely have to lay out that sex, for you, means mutual pleasure, and that your instrument of choice for your ultimate orgasm is fingers (likely as part of what I mentioned early on—the magical blended or combo ultimate orgasm).

LET YOUR FINGERS DO THE WALKING…

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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

Your fingers are extremely communicative. You can feel and transmit very subtle sensations with your fingers. Your fingers are also dexterous. They can bend and reach to explore every nook and cranny. You can use your fingers as a prelude to something, well, bigger—more fingers, a hand, or a dildo—or as the main attraction. Not everyone wants four fingers inside her vagina, and those who do may enjoy the feeling of slowly adding fingers one at a time.

You can caress the opening of the vagina, and your partner can squeeze your fingers as you find her most sensitive spots. You can easily reach her G-spot by angling your fingers towards the front wall of the vagina. Try caressing her G-spot with varying pressure and speed, as you would the glans and hood of her clit. It is one of the best way to give her ultimate orgasm.

As the receptive partner, you can push out toward your partner’s hand; your G-spot will be apparent as an area of tissue that’s spongier and rougher than the rest of your vagina.

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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

If you want to give her unforgettable, ultimate orgasm, you can use one hand for penetration, reserving the other for clitoral stimulation. If you want to give her ultimate orgasm, know that the finger circling her clit can match the rhythms of the finger thrusting inside her. You can hold the vibrator to her clit, or she can touch herself-leaving you to concentrate on her vagina. With two or three fingers you can rapidly thrust in and out, pumping at a pitch that you couldn’t possibly sustain with a strap-on dildo. You can make it last as long as you like.

Many women ask me how they can make their orgasm last longer. This can be tricky, but it’s well worth it once you master the technique. When you feel as if you are about to come, slow down or back up or do whatever it takes to ease off without stopping completely.

Then, build back up to where you were and do that again and again until you can’t take it anymore. It’s possible that it will feel as if you have backed off too much and now you can’t have an ultimate orgasm at all.

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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

In that case, take a break. If you’re playing with a partner, massage your partner, make out with your partner, or start teasing your partner in his or her favorite ways. Then get back to yourself later. If you’re playing alone, get your mind in the zone. Read some erotica. Watch some sex-positive, woman-positive porn. If you want to give her ultimate orgasm, massage your thighs and breasts. But give your pussy a break for a bit. Then get back to business when you think you’re ready.

Lacey is a master at this, at reading my body language and keeping me right on the razor’s edge. Sex lasts for hours and the pleasure is prolonged and spreads through my whole body. Interestingly, it can lead to some of the most insanely intense and explosive orgasms, as well as the most delicious and sublime and delicate and prolonged ones, because my body comes so close so many times before actually reaching orgasm. I like to call it the Push-Pull method: You push your body as far as you can go, and then you pull back and repeat.

This practice is definitely a learned skill, and I’m still working hard at mastering it. I believe our record to date is a five-minute-long, prolonged ultimate orgasm, which is different from the multiples that I am also over the moon to be experiencing these days. So, trust me, it’s definitely possible. And it’s the most fun you’ll ever have practicing something!

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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

There’s never a reason to settle. We have to expect our partners—whether they be men or women—to accept and adore the reality of our bodies and how they work. Otherwise, we have to stop granting them the honor of enjoying our bodies sexually.

It’s a lot like buying a car. That car dealer will have you believing that if you don’t buy that car right that minute, there will never ever be another one like it and you will never find a deal as great as this one. But precisely the opposite is true. There are more than enough cars and more than enough deals. The dealer needs you way more than you need him.

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Ultimate Orgasm

Ultimate Orgasm

So too is it with sexual partners. We don’t give ourselves enough credit as women. We settle for the scraps. We take what we can get. We come in a mediocre way once in a while and we call that a success for the privilege of “getting” to be with that person. That’s a bunch of bunk. There are amazing partners out there, and those are the only ones you have any need to bother with. If a partner thinks that PVI or penetration is the end-all be-all, then you keep on walking. Nothing to see here. No need to have your pleasure relegated to foreplay. My pleasure is not the prologue or the epilogue. It is the main act that contains the arc of the story. And I will not relegate or sacrifice it.

“O Wow! Discovering Your Ultimate Orgasm”

by Jenny Block

 

 

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